Todays dating lesson will bring home a harsh and unwelcome truth to many young ladies, the bitter pill being that most of your womanly wiles in luring a beau will be completely in vain by reason of your artful feminine subtlety being entirely wasted on mere man.

The female systems of communication are far more complex than the male, therefore you need to simplify your signals to such a degree that your playful flirtation will appear to other ladies as glaringly obvious but needs must, otherwise your interest will pass utterly undetected by your intended lover.

Subtle he needs must be who could seduce angels sayeth John Milton with great insight and wisdom but sadly his advice seems to have fallen on stony ground where the hearts of men are concerned.

Tinkering with the finer details of your appearance such as hairstyle, make-up or attire will almost certainly go unnoticed by the oafish male and likewise the soft phrases you utter towards him regarding the finer feelings of your soul will have no more effect than if you tried speaking Mandarin to a garden snail.

Remember that when dealing with a man you are not speaking to an adult but a large child, keep prolonged eye-contact, speaking deliberately and plainly, it's just possible that he might comprehend your meaning and reciprocate your affections.

© Sean Barrett - Sept 2011